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Perseverance Meaning

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One of my dreams was to fly fighters. The power of this dream had carried me through many difficult things over nearly two years of Air Force flight training and education. Now it was time to complete one last hurdle … land survival training … in Northern Washington … in the dead of winter. I really had put the thought far from mind as I worked through the other flying schools. Now, the reality of survival training was here.

We began the classroom training and all seemed straight-forward enough. The instructors made many things sound logical and I began to think this training might not be too bad. I was, after all, familiar with the outdoors from earlier hunting, hiking and camping trips. Wouldn’t it be like that?

Brutal Reality

One of my early clues that this would be some different was when we began making our own “tents” from parachute silk. As we assembled the supplies, we were fitted for snowshoes. This was my second clue about the challenges that lay ahead.

The outdoor part of the training began by adjusting to being active with almost no food. We hiked more and more each day using the snowshoes which only made us hungrier. Sleeping under the individual silk parachute on top of four feet of snow was a new experience as well. The challenge was the instructors would leave us in the late afternoon with a list of several things to do before the next morning. As team leader, I became more and more frustrated as we kept failing to complete the assignments from now allowing enough time.

As we proceeded farther into the week, the demands increased as did the failure rate. We tried to improve our teamwork and think of new ways to meet the requirements but to no avail. Even worse, the instructors began breaking our team into smaller groups making the requirements more difficult yet. I eventually switched to “survival” mode and simply tried to make the best of the circumstances. This tested my patience because at times it seemed I was simply playing games. In reality, the instructors were trying to teach lessons that would help should any of us find ourselves in desperate circumstances.

I am not allowed to talk about the last few days of training but suffice to say I was fully tested mentally and physically. At times, it seemed as if time had stood still and we were forgotten. I persevered – almost mechanically. Thankfully, the dream of flying burned brightly in my mind and fueled a persistence I did not know was there. Suddenly, the training was over. We made it through. It may not have been elegant but we were now graduates and a little wiser for the hardships.

Lessons

While I realize there are many military folks who have gone through more difficult training and conditions than I, Air Force survival training taxed my stamina at the time and gave me greater confidence that lasts to this day. I now believe most of us have hidden reserves that can be tapped in the most difficult times.

Committing to learn as a leader requires persistence as well. At times, the office politics, unreasonable policy demands or simple tiredness lead to less than stellar relations or decisions. One key part of developing as a leader is to learn disciplined perseverance. This requirement usually occurs when a leader faces setbacks. Conceptually, continually look for any small leverage points that will help you improve as a leader and influence others to do right as well. Here are some application ideas.

1. Re-double Preparation and Personal Growth Efforts – At times, a growing leader may feel frustrated by a lower than ideal influence at work. In times like these, when you feel like you are marching in place, re-direct the energy into your own personal development. Check out a leadership book from the library, record your difficult time in a journal including lessons learned or call that mentor you haven’t talked with in a while.

2. Look for Ways to Improve in Your Personal Relationships – If you are feeling under-valued at work, don’t take it out on your friends and family, embrace them! Re-focus the negative emotions on making your personal life even better. Exercising positive influence for those you most care about is satisfying.

3. Keep Doing the Right Thing – The natural human reaction to difficult times can be to lash out or do less-than-excellence work. Resist the temptation! Persevering means to do the right thing even when there is little encouragement in the environment. The leaders we most admire are those who cultivated and carried out an innate sense of doing good even in the face of bad stuff.

When all else fails … just keep going! Sometimes it’s that simple.

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  • Perseverance: Chad Crittenden’s Story : ASInside – What if one day you were diagnosed with a rare and deadly cancer and had to have your leg amputated? How would you feel? How would you cope? Well Chad Crittenden, the keynote speaker for the 2011 Disability Awareness Day, experienced just that. Crittenden was diagnosed with Synovial Sarcoma, which led to the amputation of his leg. Just nine months after his surgery, Crittenden was a contestant on CBS’ Survivor: Vanuatu.

Four Types of Preparation

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In any field, preparation is a key part of success. Years ago, my Dad was a residential painter by trade. One thing he would say was, “a paint job is only as good as the preparation.” As a child, the quote was a mindset shift for me as I thought all there was to painting a house was to slap the paint on. In reality, there were many hours of preparation to first sand, seal, repair, and prime the surface.

The need for preparation is clear anywhere you want to look. For instance, several years ago, I knew an up-and-coming leader. He embraced things like excellence, continuous improvement, leadership and seemed to be a student. As expected, he was promoted several times within the organization and seemed like a refreshing change to candidly address internal problems.

Eventually, this man was promoted to a very senior position where he would have the authority to make sweeping improvements as he desired. He did not make any lasting, positive leadership changes in several years at the helm. What happened? I didn’t realize until later but this individual suffered from a lack of preparation.

The manager had great intent, knew the buzzwords and had participated in several internal, professional, development programs with the rest of us. However, he had not ‘paid the price’ to grow. Said another way, he had not internalized and cultivated the development material. Once in the new position, it was too late to make-up the lost months and years of preparation. The evidence was the lack of positive change in a dysfunctional environment.

It is no more effective to cram for leadership or excellence growth than it is to rush a good paint job. The finished product will tell the honest story. Some times when I hold a seminar, I like to borrow from a colleague to first talk about the type of development attendees. There are bullies, prisoners, tourists and students. Let’s apply this to preparation and see if you recognize anybody.

Bully – This person will not only try to disrupt the education but will work hard to brings others down too. The bully will try a variety of tactics to both disrupt and deprive others of learning … relentlessly. I’ve seen it happen.

In terms of preparation, the bully will knock leadership preparation and actively try to cause others to do the same. This might come in the form of active procrastination or offers to do others things besides growing as a leader. This person may put down any of the normal activities in leadership development such as reading good books, journalling, seeking counsel from respected sources, and so on.

RESULTS: Negative growth

Prisoner – In a training sense, a prisoner is at a class because the boss said so or because it’s the only way to get a promotion or another similar reason. The prisoner is just there to endure the time and move on.

For preparation, don’t expect anything from the prisoner unless ordered. The prisoner is just there … enduring … watching the clock … thinking about other things.

RESULTS: Irritation by all and general deterioration

Tourist – Ah, the happy tourist. Let’s enjoy the sights, take pictures and maybe send a postcard to Grandma. I’ve seen a number of seminar participants who are friendly, polite and even take an occasional note or two. The fact is, the tourist attendee is only slightly interested in the material and will put any book on the shelf (permanently) once the class is over. This attendee probably showed up at the training just to get a day off work.

A tourist in a preparation sense will usually express positive thoughts toward development of one type or another but will probably stop there. Maybe, this tourist will buy a book once in a while or put one on reserve at the library but that’s it.

RESULTS: No forward motion masquerading as happy talk

Student – Any personal development requires active, consistent engagement. A true student does just this. The engaged student is a treat to have in any development course. This person constantly processes the material, asks questions from genuine curiosity and energetically wants to apply the information. Any instructor worth his or her salt will learn from a student.

In preparation, a student is well … a student! This person is constantly learning, curious, and persevering toward excellence. A student does a book report without being asked. The student continues to think about a new concept and how to apply it to family and work. The student enjoys learning.

RESULTS: Progress!

In a family or organization, persisting in excellence growth will require effort and much, much preparation before the growth is obvious to others. We can all do better (myself included). The question in preparation is not how are you compared to others but how are you doing compared to yourself?

Picture Credits

Paint brush and bucket on a ladder – luv is max on Flickr

Classroom group – Improve It on Flickr

Tourist group – Simon Blackley on Flickr

Graduates – bredgur on Flickr

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Top Eight Thought Leaders

One of the keys to reach higher is to explore and digest the works of different thought leaders. Reading about and thinking of different points of view help expand effectiveness – professionally and personally. Each person will have a different set of favorites but here are my current top eight.

8. Tom Peters – Tom calls himself a chief agitator and he lives up to this title. As a former consultant with well-known McKinsey, Tom made a name for himself when he and co-author Rob Waterman wrote In Search of Excellence. One of Tom’s strengths is helping others think innovatively. Tom constantly challenges the status quo and inspires creative thinking. If you are in need of a brain-jolt with a smile, read one of Tom’s books.

7. Noel Tichy – Professor Tichy is the writer of The Leadership Engine and other thought-provoking books. One of the key points from Noel is the importance of having a teachable point of view. This way of describing self-awareness is at the heart of growth in leadership. Knowing self first is critical to helping others move ahead on their individual paths. If you want a logical, compelling case for growing leadership in a culture, Noel Tichy is for you.

6. Stephen Covey – Author of the very famous 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Dr. Covey is one of the deep thinkers of our time. It’s hard to know where to start but I must say Covey helped me understand the idea of ‘paradigm’ or mindset. Awareness and change of paradigms is at the heart of any lasting self-improvement program as mindsets drive behavior. If deep reflection is in your future, consider reading Dr. Covey’s books.

5. Dr. Deming – Time for confession. I have not completely read any of Dr. Deming’s books (although I use them as references). But, what did hook me on Dr. Deming is his 32-volume video series. The ideas were very difficult and confusing at first but started making sense as I persisted through the series. With pen and paper nearby, Deming made more and more sense. If you want to become a better system thinker, Deming is your man.

4. Andy Andrews – During a period of self-doubt, Andy helped me move past being afraid of making decisions. His Traveler’s Gift is a profound book that encourages all readers to grow in wisdom. Andy weaves a fictional story with historical figures to help any student of any age personally develop. If common sense mixed with timeless standards is your goal, Andy will help.

3. Jim Collins – The book Built to Last knocked my socks off! The idea of having a core purpose while innovating everything else continues to be an excellent benchmark to follow. Then Jim went and wrote Good to Great and again amazed me with his careful research and timeless results. Both of these books should be on the list of any leadership student. If you prefer an extraordinary business model supported by detailed research, Jim Collins is a great choice.

The last two thought leaders on my list are personal friends who have stretched me and challenged my thinking. I refer to each of these friends by a generic name to protect  privacy. Who are the people in your life who make you better?

2. Frank Smith 1 – As a former boss, Frank 1 modeled leadership … consistently. I had become acquainted with some leadership theory before meeting Frank 1 but he showed me how to do well firsthand with our interactions and those I observed of him working with others. This example was and continues to be very powerful!

1. Frank Smith 2 – Frank 2 looks at things differently than I do. Frank 2 and I literally spent hours over a few years discussing and refining many leadership thoughts. I like to think I helped Frank 2 grow but he probably contributed more to my growth than vice versa. Frank 2 was great at pointing out new resources (books, seminars, videos, etc.) and then he and I would process these different perspectives. Frank 2 and I remain good friends today.

These are not the only influencers on my list but they certainly have made (and continue to make) an impact. How about you?

Who IS on your list?

Who do you WANT on your list?

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Reach Higher

What does it mean to “reach higher”? The phrase suggests going beyond the ordinary or doing much better than mediocre. Excellence certainly fits too. Any discussion of reaching higher would be incomplete without at least one example.

Several years ago, I was in charge of a team in a large military exercise. Over the three days or so, we ran through our paces both literally and figuratively as we worked to meet operational challenges in a simulated war-time environment. During this period, my respect grew for one team member in particular as he seemed to do better the harder the scenario. When the rest of us struggled to keep going, this individual would find creative solutions that helped us to keep making progress. He seemed unstoppable! Our results were heavily influenced by one person both in what he did and what he influenced us to do to accomplish our goals. I have never forgotten how this team member dug deep into himself and pulled more than his weight in our hard circumstances.

How about you? How is the reaching-higher quotient in recent memory? In your heart of hearts, do you know you are setting an example of excellence? Are you adding more value than your wage reflects? Do you go above and beyond the standard in your personal relationships? What makes the difference in succeeding at this higher-than-average standard? Here are some possibilities.

1. Be the decider of your attitude in spite of circumstances. “That person makes me so mad.” Really? Does he/she have mind control? We are products of our own choices. While this can be challenging after a night of too little sleep because a baby crying or spouse with a nagging cough, this can also be inspiring when we firmly take control. If you want a better day, approach it making the best of whatever life hands out and you will find yourself becoming a people magnet.

2. Focus on those things in your control. It is easy to grow overly concerned with those things outside our control (anybody frustrated with too much rain last month?). And yet, if we stop and think about it, this is a guaranteed path to frustration: thinking too much about what we cannot change is futile. Instead, ask what is in the area of control and seek to make positive changes there. Both the focus and postive results feed on themselves in a good way.

3. When pinched for time, choose relationships over stuff. Recently, I was working feverishly on the yard because it was overdue and I planned to leave in the early afternoon to meet my young sons whom I had not seen for about a week. The progress was slower than expected and so my frustration grew. As it became obvious I would fall short of my goal, I seriously considered delaying my arrival time to meet the boys in order to make more headway with the yard (and reach my goal). Imagine my embarrassment as I realized I was actually debating between cutting more grass with the weedeater versus seeing my family. It seems silly now. In reality, many of our professional decisions can fall into this scenario too. What choice will you make?